Stop FOMO, Start JOMO: The Joy of Missing Out

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Every day we socialize with our peers and discuss numerous topics starting from light talks to more complex ones. Topics often range from trending coffee shops, currently watched Netflix series, to recent breaking news. It’s exciting when you’re able to catch all of these with your friends and are having a two-way conversation with each other. However, once you missed out on one of them, would you still have the chance to tap into the talks? 


Fear of Missing Out, usually shortened as FOMO, it’s a term that was first introduced by Patrick J. McGinnis through his writing at Harvard Business School. FOMO fears so many people and studies estimate around 70 per cent of all adults in developed countries suffer from the feeling that something is happening while they are not part of it. 


The feeling of discontent affects many people through this FOMO phenomenon, and many researchers found that the core source of this prodigy is social media. Whilst you can photoshop anything about your fun life online, other people see your updates as something extraordinary and often compare that virtual reality to their actual reality. This side effect creates anxiety and potentially leads to depression, and it’s all because of FOMO.

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The side effects of FOMO could prevent you from enjoying the true essence of life. So, instead of overthinking what other people have been doing without you, you could focus on what matters in your life and embrace the other side of FOMO–JOMO, the joy of missing out.


The Joy of Missing Out aka JOMO is what we call having fun by taking time for yourself. Well, it doesn’t have to be “inside” all the time. Initially, the meaning behind JOMO is to focus on how you like to spend your time. In this fast-paced world, sometimes, the world sounds too noisy for us who wish to take a pause. Hence, when you need to do that, JOMO is the first step that you need to take. 

Referring to the book by professor Svend Brinkmann, “The Joy of Missing Out” urges us to opt-out and say no to invitations. It sounds simple, but is it? It takes practice to say no, but once you obtain the skill, you will develop a fulfilling way of living. Besides, by implementing JOMO in your life, you will realize that being FOMO ruins your life’s purposes. Therefore, you need to use the time that allows you to grow and strengthen your inner self. 

Walking slowly between the fast-walking people is truly hard. But it also translates that you now have more time for your thoughts and leave the unnecessary ones behind. Once you activate JOMO, you can understand what interests you and whatnot. 

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